Feeling comfortable in your own skin.
Updated: Mar 3, 2018
The other day we had a very interesting conversation happening in the salon. Sometimes a very dreaded topic; weight.
Now before you're like 'not my kinda blog', it wasn't your stereotypical, I'm fat, she's fat, everybody's fat. No no, we were talking about weight, bodies, and how things change.
We all know as women our bodies change. Or at least we all know that when we're young, older people tell us to enjoy it because our bodies will change. Yet somehow, we all seem to forget that as we grow, our bodies are growing and changing and we have to keep up with them.
So, my personal story. When I was a teenager I barely weighed 100 pounds. Yes, I got the anorexia comments all the time, and people always told me to eat a cheeseburger. But believe me, I ate. A disgusting amount of food, plus weight gain drinks targeted for seniors. As a skinny teenager dreaming to put on weight, my mother always told me that I'd gain weight when I had kids. Well, times are changing, and my mother had kids at the age I am now. But let me tell you, I didn't have to have kids to gain weight. I gained it, slowly at first and then 30 pounds in one fairly stressful year. Not traumatically stressful, just ordinarily stressful. But going from very skinny to womanly and plus 30 pounds all at once, is uncomfortable.
This is the conversation we had at the salon. If a woman feels she needs to eat better, exercise more, or lose weight, it's not because she thinks women larger than her are 'fat' or 'obese', it's because she may not be comfortable in her own skin. Because carrying around weight you aren't used to feels different. And saying you'd like to lose a little weight or exercise more does not mean you're saying you're fat. Or that you even THINK you're fat. Just that you see yourself at a different weight.
I know that I personally wished to gain weight so hard for so long, that it's probably why I gained so much at once. Hence the old.. 'careful what you wish for'.
We realised while talking about this that we have these deep seeded feelings of how our bodies "should" look. Not realising that they've just been bread into our subconscious by what others say and by media and society proclaim. Even though the media says they're trying to put a stop to the "ideal" female image, we all know that it hasn't gotten much better. So called plus sized models are still often smaller than the average woman. But we should be to a point where we can identify that all women's bodies are beautiful. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in their own skin no matter what. As well as supporting each other’s journey to get to our own mindful opinions of ourselves.
So, wherever you're at in your journey, losing weight, gaining weight, toning, I hope it's near the comfortable end of feeling fulfilled and happy. I support you. I'm proud of you and I hope you know that you're beautiful, and society / opinions of others should never navigate the direction you take. No one determines what the 'right size' of your body is but YOU. Stay faithful to your goals and rely on your mind and souls.